The Best Statement Necklaces by Independent Designers on Etsy Right Now

I'm obsessed with giant statement necklaces, but I very rarely find any that I would actually wear. Except for these. I spent hours on Etsy and I would, without a doubt, wear every single one of these. They're not cheap, but really great art shouldn't be, and each necklace here is absolutely a piece of wearable art.


Facebook goes down, Twitter responds appropriately

Facebook crashed today. The world freaked out.


Infusing Positivity Into Everything I do

...or trying, at least. I'm also trying not to pretend everything is perfect all of the time for the sake of marketing my little jewelry company. Sometimes stuff sucks. We should talk about it.

When I was little, I thought that there were 2 kinds of mean people. Little kids who were mean to other little kids, or adults who were mean to little kids. For some reason, I figured that when everybody grew up, they wouldn't be mean to each other because...well, I don't really know why I thought that. I just did.

So it came as a big surprise to me to discover that grown-ups can be bullies. I mean, professional, 40+, "you should totally know better than this" kind of grown-ups.

I know. I'm totally naive.

Anyway, apparently, when you start doing great things (I'm lucky enough to be part of an organization that does really great things!), people feel weirdly threatened by it. And they start being mean. Like - "Mean Girls" high school, Lifetime movie of the week, holy crap I can't believe this is real life kind of mean. And there's all sorts of weird politics involved, and lying and manipulating. For me, there was a lot of crying and beating my head against the wall as the result of this.

And then I had an epiphany. The details of how I finally came upon my epiphany are long and boring and completely uninteresting, but the important thing is, I got to where I needed to be, which is this:

I don't care anymore.

I mean, I don't completely not care, but at the end of the day, I can't control what other people think or do. The kind of people who are comfortable lying and spreading rumors and being manipulative and trying to hurt other people are always going to be like that. Even if I'm a complete asshole, or even if I'm Mother Theresa, people who are jerks are always just going to be jerks.  So while I might be still be bothered by it (like I'm bothered by a fly) I'm not going to be hurt by it anymore. Because flies can't hurt you - they're just really annoying.

I'm not going to let mean people change who I am. I did let it change me for the last 6 months. I let it make me sad and angry and bitter and tired and frustrated and then...

I stopped caring about people who don't care about me. I like who I am. I love my friends and family. I'm surrounded by people who do amazing things every single day. I like them. I care what they think.

I don't care about flies because gross. Flies are gross.

Anyway, the moral of the story is this: I'm a good person, surrounded by good people. I have faith in this.

 I love joy. And love. And hope. And kindness. And I deserve those things, and I want to share those things with others. And sometimes I need to be reminded. So much so that I tattooed it on my skin.

A reminder - Be kind to others. Be kind to myself.

Tattoos aren't for everybody, so I made you this bracelet. (I mean - you knew at some point I was going to revert this back to my shop, right?)

Look! You can mix and match! 
Also, listen - I totally photoshopped this picture. I carry some major baggage underneath my eyeballs and I don't really like to show that so I airbrushed it out and made myself look well rested.

"Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world." ~ Harriet Tubman
(You can have this. I mean - you can buy it, and then it will be yours to have.)

"Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future." ~ Robert H. Schuller
I have hope tattooed on my other wrist. I forgot to take a picture. Sorry about that.

And finally, in closing, in the immortal words of Wilson Phillips - someday somebody's gonna make you want to turn around and say goodbye. Until then, baby, are you going to let them hold you down and make you cry? No. You're not. Because you are awesome and things can change, things will go your way, blah blah blah, you know how it goes...


Placement of Brides and Grooms for Ceremonies

I recently coordinated a Jewish/Christian ceremony for a bride and groom. Traditional Christian ceremonies generally have the groom standing to the right of his bride. One of the reasons given for this was so that the groom could keep his right hand - his "sword hand" - free to defend his lady love, should any crazy bride knappers come to whisk his bride away. Even though the modern day groom may be sadly lacking in swordmanship, we still seem to like to place him in a manner that keeps his sword hand free. 

In our house, we call that the "remote control hand."

Superheroes probably don't worry about their sword hand. Mostly because they can fly and also because they're superheroes. (photo via James McGhee Photography)

However, In Jewish ceremonies, when standing under a Chuppah, the bride traditionally stands to the right of the groom. ( Notes the Psalmist: “At your right hand stands the queen” ~ 45:10).  

For this particular ceremony, there were also two ceremonies within the ceremony, where the Bride and Groom walked to two different tables and faced their family and friends. Because of the various facets of the ceremony and the two religions represented, the Bride stood to the right of her Groom under the Chuppah. When they faced their family and friends during the wine ceremony and the unity candle lighting, the Groom was to the right of his Bride. 

Brooke and Steve. Now happily married, with no sword fighting injuries to speak of. (Photo via Seth Morris Photography)

After the wedding, I did some more research and discovered that while some people are very attached to traditional placements of Brides and Grooms during the ceremony, some people would rather be placed in the most visually pleasing way possible, for the resultant photos/videos. Some people simply don't care where they stand, they just want to marry the love of their life and celebrate with cake and champagne. 

Just happy to be married. Probably thinking about cake and champagne, too. (Photo via James McGhee Photography)

I'm curious - what are your thoughts regarding where Brides and Grooms should stand?

PS - Helpful hint: Regardless of what you decide for your own wedding, be sure and let your photographer and videographer know. Placement of cameras and lighting is often dictated by where the Bride and Groom will be standing.

(Side notes: I originally was going to title this "Where Does the Groom Stand?" but kept accidentally typing "What Does the Fox Say?" and stopping to do a little techno dance. I also sang "Brides to the left of me, grooms are to the right, here I am...stuck in the middle with you" throughout the entire writing of this post.  I also promised myself that I would go get cake when I finished writing. These are things you should know, in case you're thinking of hiring me to help out with your wedding. There is a soundtrack to everything, and I always want cake.)


Where does the time go?

It seems like every year I make a promise to myself to really get focused on Hey Lola, to start taking this blog more seriously and really define myself as a jewelry designer.

You's SO hard!

It's not really, it's just that I feel like I have the whole world at my fingertips and it's incredibly easy to get sucked into all of these other great things that I have in my life. 

Currently, I'm distracted by the tavern that my husband and I own together (Blue - have you been? You should go!) and the community association that I helped start (Renaissance Park Community Association - we're doing great things!). 

I closed the physical location of Hey Lola to really get focused on Hey Lola, but it seems like everything else keeps pulling me away.

The moral to this story? I'm bringing my focus back again. I have a pop-up shop at Blue every First Friday, the website - is up and active, I'm sending a bunch of jewelry to LA for a photoshoot, and spending a lot more time in the studio working on new projects. Here's a peek at some of what I've been working on:



Simple necklaces!

Statement pieces!

Thanks for sticking it out with me during my distractions - you are the very best!


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